Girls in the City: New York! (Recap)

The girls and I continued our Girls in the City tour from Chicago to New York by plane. Jason was working so much in New York, we had the opportunity to stay with him for a few days--we even invited some friends!

Flying with the wheelchair was easy (the hardest part is probably putting it in/out of cabs). I guess we could have borrowed an airport chair, or asked for a ride on a cart, but having the chair with us provided me with a lot of security (I could keep track of all our things and the kids, and was certain no one would be too tired).

We decided to try more walking as opposed to riding in the chair once in the city. This was a shift from our plan in Chicago; I think all the riding in the chair made Elena more stiff than rested--it's a balance that we didn't quite get right. Here, Elena did a pretty good job keeping pace (we were pretty slow), and we were sure not to plan to travel more than a few blocks on foot without the chair (sometimes we just brought it and didn't use it). And, sometimes we didn't bring it and wished we had (as you'll see in some of the pictures).

Rock Center

Sister LOVE

Mom, Pack Mule NY Edition.

Against reader advice, we did take the subway (not all the time). The difference was I never took it as a lone adult with the kids; I always had another grown up, so we could keep eyes on kids, or carry the chair, or one help E while the other keep track of everything else. The girls LOVED the subway. We took elevators when convenient; if it was only one flight of stairs, E typically climbed up/down.

Girls on the Subway

Lady Liberty in the distance

 

 

 

Doing their best Marilyn impression

There was so much to do...the girls loved it. The weather was hot, but gorgeous. We went to the Metropolitan Museum of Art--I wasn't sure how much the girls would like it. Elena loved it! I could have been there all day. Our favorites were the Egyptian exhibit and the sculpture garden. I also liked the impressionist paintings.

The Met

The Met

Splashing

Central Park was more of a challenge than I thought. Mostly b/c even with a map, we found it hard to find the nearest restroom. The park is so massive, we only saw a small part of it. 

 

 

Boats

Alice in Wonderland

Carousel

The girls LOVED the Rockettes! I wish I could have taken a picture of how spellbound they were during the show. It was awesome! We also did some shopping, but with all the choices (and not much knowledge of what was fun for kids) the stores were a bit of a bust. We did find some really awesome glasses for Elena!

Pack Mule: Vivian is tired this time

New Yorkers were very kind--especially on the subway. I'll admit, I was surprised (maybe I shouldn't have been? Shame on me.). People were looking out for us, and were very friendly and helpful.

Girls in the City

Insomnia Cookies at night

Girls in an Elevator

Art Park

 My sister joined us for the last few days in the city. We went to the High Line--really beautiful!

Popsicle on the go

 

 

 

 

 

Chilling Out

Pack Mule, thirst quenching edition

We didn't do much New York at Night with the kids; they were typically worn out every evening. The grown up ladies did have one night out, which was really fun!

Times Square

We were all a little sad when our week was up.  We had such a fun time exploring, we weren't ready to leave. I was always very apprehensive when I thought about Elena in the city, because of all the walking she would have to do. But our experience taught me something very different.  I realized that if Elena can successfully navigate the subway, and learn her walking limits, her universe grows much larger. There is so much to see and do in a city like New York; if Elena can master the transportation piece, she can enjoy as much of it as she likes despite her disability. It was a really positive revelation. I think weather also is a factor; I can't imagine trying to navigate with lots of bulky clothing and coats.

Pack Mule; heading back home by train

Again, we enjoyed a relaxing ride home by train (we still LOVE the train!). It was great to sleep in our own beds, and be in our own house, and be in our own town. But it's official. The kids love traveling and exploring! Huge thanks to Aunt Kate, and the Gs who joined us! We loved your company and all your help!

Wheelin' Weekend

Here is E's wheelchair. When I took it out of the car to take a picture of it, I thought, you know what? It's pretty cute. I call it Little Red.



Little Red even fits in the car, without taking it apart. I took this and the Convaid up to DC (I have both on "permanent loan"). Jason was flying back into town that day, so we decided to make a run for the Cherry Blossom Festival in DC with the kids and my parents.



I packed the Convaid and the wheelchair b/c I figured the kids would be in each of them. I know that they are both designed for Elena, but I wasn't about to bring a third item for Vivian. I was curious to see if Elena preferred one or the other, and how they operated in a "field trip" situation. I figured Vivian would just ride in what ever E didn't. I didn't even have time to put E in either one before the car was packed, so I assumed both would fit okay. We left for Grandma and Grandpa's house, right after soccer.

Coach West showing E how to kick with her instep



Saturday morning I tried E in both chairs; the Convaid was really too small for Elena, which was a surprise. Little Red was a perfect fit. When I saw her in it...you know, I wasn't even sad. She seemed happy it just fit her. She wanted to wheel it. I thought...well, I guess our new normal will just have to accommodate Little Red. So, we packed everything in the car, DC bound. My father had warned us that walking--for the able bodied-was extremely slow-going due to crowds, and parking during the Cherry Blossom Festival was extremely scarce, even for the handicap spots. So we decided to all ride the Metro, chairs and all.

E is helping to buy FareCards



Waiting for the Train--(Vivian keeps on saying "METRO!!!" in all of these pictures)



Boy did they love the ride!!!







The Metro really wasn't all that crowded; the forecast was for sporadic showers, so maybe that kept the big crowds away--not to mention peak season had just ended (it came much earlier than anticipated). I wanted to try for a picture, even if it was just of a few trees. We arrived at the Smithsonian Metro station when I learned my first lesson: just because some modifications are wheelchair accessible DOES NOT mean they are wheelchair friendly. For instance:

There are elevators in the Metro. If you want to wait 20-30 minutes to go up one floor. One guy didn't, and tried to go up the escalator in his chair--he'd obviously done this before, but this particular time something when wrong (and he wasn't buckled in--which was probably a good idea in this case)--his chair went backwards while he was holding the handrails, and Jason left me with the kids (both strapped in their chairs) to save him AND his chair. Scared the crap out of me. If he had fallen down, strapped to that chair (instead of just falling out and riding the escalator on his back) he could have SERIOUSLY been hurt.

There are paved walks on the National Mall. They are paved cobblestone--which means they are annoyingly bumpy. And there is a small strip of paved stone amid a lot of loose pebbles (which are the same color). Guess where everyone wants to walk? On the paved cobblestone. Some of them move for a wheelchair, but not many.

I saw a tour group on Segways. THAT SEEMS PERFECT. It's fast, upright, maneuverable, and you can park it and walk if that's an option for you. There is a family in the next town over who owns a tour company for all-terrain Segways (or, they used to)--their son has CP (more affected than Elena) and (note to self) I plan on talking to them.

Cherry Blossoms!



It didn't just sporadically rain shower-IT RAINED. Almost constantly. And it GOT COLD. Elena kept trying to wheel (or pretend to, she's not good at it) b/c of the novelty--and ruined her sweatshirt in minutes with the wet mud from the wheels. How does any manual chair user keep their clothes clean?

I had the kids hold umbrellas--which they both liked--but IF you were trying to manually push a chair yourself, and it started raining, that's not an option.

We ducked in a cafe 1) b/c it was lunchtime and 2) to get out of the rain. It was crowded. Very difficult to maneuver two chairs through. We did get a table, and the kids both ate in their chairs. E got out to use the bathroom--which was also crowded, and I could just imagine how difficult it would be to get her chair in there.

We went to a museum--there was a WAY long line, in the rain, to get in the building (as everyone had to get into security). The line happened to go from the front entrance down four rows of steps, and around the building. My dad got in line, and we waited for him to get to us after he made it past the steps.



Not many people gave us nasty looks--but seriously, how else are we supposed to wait in line down steps?

Even though the exhibit we wanted to see was under construction, the girls were still very well behaved. The metro ride home was still fun for both kids, and then we drove home (both kids passed out in the car).

Overall, a pretty successful trial day, I thought. Both Elena and Vivian preferred the wheelchair to the Convaid. Little Red proves a smooth ride, with the possibility of independence.

And then we got home.

All throughout that evening, through today (the next day), Elena expected us to help her. Hold her hand, carry her (!), help her, bring things to her--when up until three days ago, she did all of these things herself without question. I have read about learned helplessness, but I never imagined it to manifest this quickly. It could be that she was tired, or had really tight muscles from all that sitting (Metro, wheelchair, car rides) but frankly, I was SHOCKED at how much help she wanted. That is not okay.

But I'm not trying to read too much into this. We're back home, back to our real life--a life in which Little Red is relegated to Field Trip Status. So, we'll see how things go. Despite the weather, this weekend has been EXTREMELY educational, to say the least.